The Big Dance

My hysterectomy was yesterday morning, here's how the big dance went down... At least the parts that I can remember:

Tuesday afternoon we drove to Joplin and stayed with my in-laws.  My mother in law hosted a small birthday party for Mase which was a great distraction!  Surprisingly, I felt relatively calm all day.  Some nerves, but it was all very manageable.  I even managed to sleep really well from 10pm to around 2:30am.  I wasn't expecting to sleep much at all, so I'll count that as a win.

Wednesday

4:00 am - I 'wake up' get up and take a quick shower, as who knows when I will get to shower next.  Poor Richard is exhausted because little Mase suckered him into sleeping on the futon so they could have a father-son sleep over.  I get dressed and quietly go in to kiss Mase on the cheek.  I'm sad.  I know this hysterectomy decision affects my entire family.  On one hand, Mase won't ever get a sibling, on the other hand, I am doing this FOR my family.  

My mom was 8 years old when she lost her mom to ovarian cancer. Her mom wasn't there to teach her all the things little girls (and grown up girls) learn from their mom.  Admittedly, I still need my mom, which I'm sure will become all too evident after surgery.  Up to this point, I've always felt sorry for my mom, but now that I am a mom myself, I cannot imagine the array of pain my maternal grandmother, Mildred, must have gone through, too.  Obviously, physically cancer is rough.  But the emotional pain of knowing your kids aren't going to have you when they need you ~ I cannot even put it into words.  The hurt, sadness and worry she must have experienced...  I literally cannot imagine.  Grandma Mildred would have given anything to have the warning.  My mom, had a full on abdominal hysterectomy complete with a big scar to prove it purely out of fear that we would end up without our mother.  She knew that pain and she wanted to protect us from experiencing what she went through.  I'm doing the same for Mason.  He NEEDS me.  And that is why this BRCA warning is such a blessing.  This surgery protects me, it protects him and it protects our entire family.  

5:00 am - Richard and I leave for the hospital.  I'm nervous and my mouth is so dry, but they've told me absolutely no food or drink since midnight, so I quickly take a few sips of water when R isn't looking.  

Pre-Op
5:30 am - Richard and I are called back into the prep room where I am told to get completely undressed and to wipe down with these towelettes and use this mouthwash that made my mouth a bit sticky.  I put on my fancy gown, hairnet, and booties and we wait...  I'm so nervous my body is literally shaking.  Or maybe the room was cold.  Probably a combination of both.  

5:45 am - A nurse comes in to start my IV.  Shit's getting real and I continue to shake.  

6:30 am - Several people come in and ask me the same set of questions.  Then, the anesthesiologist comes in to introduce himself.  I keep my composure, but now realize that was a mistake.  Pretty sure Gill got knocked out on their first meeting since she turned on the tears.  Bummer!  He's leaving and I'm still awake!  Ugh, I fear I missed my window of opportunity to get knocked out early.  

6:45 am - DHL, my OBGYN, comes in to say good morning.  He's his usual calm, confident, reassuring self.  He's the reason why we drove 3 hours to have this procedure.  It's not lost on Richard and I that DHL helped bring our precious Mason into the world, and now he would be doing this surgery so that we could preserve our little family.  On a normal day, the gravity of that would have been huge.  But, frankly I quickly push that thought out of my head because I'm at maximum crazy capacity.  Still shaking.

I couldn't figure out how to get my hair net on.  

Don't hate me because I'm beautiful!  

7:15 am - The nurse anesthetist comes in to introduce herself.  I like her.  She doesn't seem much older than me and appears confident and reassuring.  She offers me a little patch to put behind my ear that would cut down on nausea should I have any.  I hear someone in the hallway say it's time to roll.  Tears start flowing and Richard leans over to kiss me good bye.  I know it must have been so tough for him to leave me as I was crying.  I know if he could trade places with me, he would in a heartbeat.    One of my biggest fears was seeing him walk away.  I was hoping I wouldn't be awake for that moment.  But, it happened and I survived.

Surgery
My gurney gets pushed through several rooms and corridors.  We arrive in the operating room and my eyes are closed, because I am scared.  Occasionally I would open my eyes during the transport and it feels like people are lined up just watching me.  Come to think of it, they probably had to stop so that me and my big rolling bed wouldn't run them over.  They had warned me that before we get to the operating room I would feel a little breeze.  I felt the breeze, so I knew we were close.  Again, I occasionally peak at my surroundings, but I can't see much besides bright lights since I don't have my glasses on.  They ask me to scoot off my bed to the surgical gurney.  I don't remember much, but I remember the surgical gurney feels really small.  Someone tells me I'm skinny, so it's nice I fit.  Isn't that what everyone wants to hear right before they go under, that they are skinny?  The nurse anesthetist tells me she's going to give me something to relax and it can't come soon enough.  I remember her starting to put an oxygen mask close to my face and being able to smell the plastic.  That's the last thing I remember.  Not to self: Next time, I'm listening to Jill and turning on the water works in the surgery holding cell.

Post-Op
8:00 am - My surgery lasts about 45 minutes, so I'm told.  I don't remember much about the recovery area, but for some reason I am picturing a woman with long, big, blond hair.  Not sure if she's real or someone I made up.  

At some point, DHL talks to Richard and reports that all went well and that everything looked good and healthy.  What a relief this must have been on Richard.  He's a bit of a control freak, but in a good way.  He would give anything to protect me from being scared or hurt.  

I must have been in recovery for quite some time, but I don't remember much of it.  

10:30 am - I vaguely remember being wheeled to our room and R is in the hallway waiting for me.  Somehow I am transferred to the bed in my recovery suite.  Again, I don't remember much, but I do remember being in a significant amount of pain and writhing around.  Perhaps my pain meds from surgery had worn off or I was just coming to enough to realize the amount of pain I was in.  I was probably out of it where I wasn't even aware of my actions or what I was saying, but I was definitely awake enough to know I was hurting.  Richard tells me that they administer a pain med through my IV which must have been effective because again, I don't remember much past that.    

12:00 pm - We're in a double room, and they transfer me to a different bed, as the first bed I'm in seems to be having a few issues.  No biggie, I've got a morphine drip and I must be feeling pretty good at this point.  Again, I don't remember much, just bits and pieces of certain moments.  Did I mention I'm in the postpartum unit of the hospital.  Lucky for them I wasn't wearing my crazy pants just yet and even if I wanted to they wouldn't fit because I'm so bloated!, but putting a woman who just had a hysterectomy around babies seems like it has potential to be a disaster.  Lucky for me and everyone else around me, I wake up feeling good about my decision.  At least so far.  

At some point, I wake up and look up and my sister is walking in!  Again, I don't really remember much, but goodness, it meant a lot to me that she would come up and surprise me.  Like I've said, everyone deserves a Gill!  She brought me a grilled cheese and a peach mango tea.  I was so thirsty and hungry, but had a bit difficulty swallowing, probably because of the tube put down my throat during surgery.  

Jill, Richard and I hang out a bit, but I don't remember much of it.  I do remember taking a selfie :) for the blog.  Goodness, Gill is beautiful.  And I am pale and look a bit drunk.  Usually, Jill is the one that looks drunk in our selfies, because well...

Gill looks great.  I look like someone just ripped my insides out.  Oh wait, they did! 

I don't remember much of the remainder of the day.  I know I had trouble sleeping, but when I would go to sleep, it would be for 20-30 minutes, but it did feel like good sleep.  I also know I got up to walk a few time...  Perhaps the pain meds were working too good.  A few of the nurses were saying how great I looked for just having surgery since I was walking around.  I think those couple of walks will come back to bite me in my big o BRCA butt.  Oh, and I peed A LOT!  They make you pee in this top hat looking thing that measures your pee and I constantly was receiving fluids.

Around 3:30 the next morning, I called the nurses station to ask for another pill and they took my vitals and gave me a final dose of antibiotic.  R woke up with me and we ended up watching the Big Brother episode we missed.  Making memories at 3:30 in the morning.  Bonus, we were the only people in a double occupancy room, so R got to sleep in an actual bed.  Poor guy was flat out exhausted.  Yes, I had a big day, but let's be honest, so did he.  Sometimes I wonder if being the patient is the easy spot to be in.  He was dozing off, so I remember turning on some calming worship music to help us both get to sleep ~ it worked!  Either that or it was the morphine.  Let's just say it was the music though.

Me about 24 hours out from surgery.  I am so swollen  ~ everywhere!
Richard said it was a good look and wondered if we could take some of that fluid home.  Perhaps we show this swollen picture to Dr. Price before my mastectomy.  HAHA!  

My Pain
A few people have asked what current pain feels like.  Here's my best way of describing it... Imagine you have grossly over ate at Thanksgiving, and then you eat another plate (my mom calls this other plate a sampler, where she fixes herself one normal sized piece of every single dessert being served).  Then, you have one of those gas pains under your ribs that takes your breath away, paired with a giant, never-ending contraction.  And it feels like my bladder is constantly full.  It's uncomfortable, but it's not unbearable with the pain meds.  Pain meds mainly just take the edge off.  Admittedly the morphine drip I had in the hospital took the edge off quite a bit more than the hydrocodone they sent me home with.  Physically, I have three very small incisions.  One right under my belly button and two right above my pubic bone.  Surprisingly, there's been very little blood.  Although, BONUS!  I did manage to snag a few extra pair of those great, comfy mesh panties.  The nurse called them Fredrick's of Freemen (Hospital) undies.  Another interesting fact, my nurse actually has the BRCA gene too.  Her procedures will start in the next month.  

I'm Coming Home, Back Where I Belong (Richard and I used to cruise in the jeep, top down listening to this by Jay-Z and Skylar Gray)
We're home now, and my big goal for tomorrow is to pass some gas and take a shower.  That's right, I'm shooting for the stars!  Richard is currently laying next to me dropping bombs.  Pretty sure he's doing it to taunt me.  Every time he does it, and he's doing it a lot, he looks over at me, smiles, and then says he's sorry.  Richard: if you are sorry you will quit rubbing in the fact that you can fart and I can't.

Val, my sweet mother in law came up to help with Mase.  She's awesome!  She keeps wanting to do chores, but I'm hoping tomorrow she will just come lay in bed with me.

That's it for now... getting drowsy.  

Appreciate all the prayers, messages and texts.  God is good all the time.